Sexual Harassment--What is it Really?

(note: these are my beliefs, which may not always coincide with actual reality)

Respectable, innocent members of our society are being intimidated into social paralysis and isolation due to the intimidation they experience because campus administrators, campus police, and public police persecute them on the grounds of alleged 'sexual harassment', without understanding what sexual harassment is in the first place.

Whatever system it is that trains these administrators and police has apparently failed; seems whatever system it is, has simply instilled them with: a guilty until proven innocent mentality; a general prejudice against men; a general prejudice against heterosociality; an unreasonably high level of respect for complainants; an unreasonably high level of contempt for those complained about; and a harsh irritable capricious attitude.

Certain rule-books are reasonably interpreted as proclaiming that sexual harassment consists on one party visiting 'unwanted attention' upon the 'victim' party.

This idea that unwanted attention in and of itself constitutes 'harassment', is incorrect, and results in social paralysis, with everyone afraid to find out whether some other party is interested in being social. Realistically, the only way for one individual to find out if another individual wants to be social, is for the socially inclined extraverted individual to socially proposition the other individual.

Similarly, a few years ago, an organization came up with an eccentric definition of spam: it defined 'spam' as 'unwanted email'. This definition of spam had the effect of unreasonably inhibiting communication. People do not know if their email is 'unwanted', until they find out it is unwanted. If it becomes necessary to telephone, or speak in person with the potential email recipient first to find out if they can be emailed, the result is that the potential email recipient is burdened with a hassle that is even greater than the hassle of getting an unwanted email.

At least one campus cop has proclaimed: if you email a woman, and she fails to respond to the email, and then you contact the same woman you emailed again a second time, you become guilty of harassment.

This campus cop's idea that contacting an unresponsive individual a second time, when put into effect results in a social paralysis that psychologically and emotionally damages society. Often even when a woman wants to marry the man who contacts her, she will not respond to the first email, or message on the answering machine, or letter. Therefore the declaration that a man must abstain from communicating with a woman who fails to respond to the first communication, can result in the abortion of marriages, and at minimum, unnecessary emotional distress in the male whose first communication is not responded to by the woman who wants to marry him.

By way of contrast, a relatively reasonable sexual harassment rule that I found in a university rulebook, declared that if a woman notifies a man that she is not interested in socializing with him, and yet he persists in attempting to seduce the woman into such socialization, then the man becomes guilty of harassment of a type.

When persons in authority adhere to invalid definitions regarding what 'sexual harassment' is, they conflict with the book which amongst books is the most important foundation of our legal system, the Bible.

The Bible states: 'Open rebuke is better than secret love' (Proverbs 27:5). Translation: it is better to reveal your love to someone you love, and get rejected, than it is to keep your feelings of love secret.

The Bible states: 'Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you: For every one that asketh receiveth; and he that seeketh findeth; and to him that knocketh it shall be opened' (Mt 7:7-8).

Persons adhering to a fallacious definition of harassment, clash with scientific understanding of differences between male and female behavior with regards to courtship. Modern science understands, that females are naturally 'coy' in their relations with males (see, Google search: men women courtship coyness; Google search: females males courtship coyness).

It's too bad, that given an atmosphere that intimidates men, featuring scary persons in authority who do not understand what 'harassment' is, running around persecuting men for alleged 'harassment', women fail to adapt to the new conditions by becoming more extraverted and initiating communication with men who they are attracted to. The end result of such female failure to adapt, can be: aborted marriages, aborted relationships, aborted children, physically/emotionally/financially damaged men.

©2011 David Virgil Hobbs

73 minute 5-mile run using long & quick paces style: power of chant(?)

Monday March 16 I was too tired to run. Prior to Monday March 16, I had done six miles a day for six days in a row.

Reminds me of legends, symbolic to this or that degree such as: God created the world in six days and rested on the seventh day; Christ objected to the Jews around him making a big deal of criticizing him for healing people on the sabbath day.

Synthesis of the two scriptures: wisdom consists of resting for a day approximately every seven days, but this rest does not need to be on Sunday every week; use your common-sense synthesizing different scriptures.

It is pathetic how many so-called, self-professed 'Christians' and 'Jews', are incompetent in the art of synthesizing more than one scripture into common-sense wisdom when the synthesized scriptures differ from each other even by just a little.

Tuesday March 17:

Prior to the run footwear-wise I put into effect a recommendation I made to myself after the March 15 run. Keeping everything else the same, in the left shoe I increased the padding to the sides of and behind the heel by 8 m-wrap layers. The pad was shaped like half of a circle of 3 inches in diameter.

The recommendations I made to myself after the March 15 run were:

"Left foot: increase padding to sides and rear of heel by 8 m-wrap layers, make sure the padding is vertically low enough to have heel-tightening effect; or, adjust padding already on shoe to bring padding low enough to have effect...Right foot: no change
(http://davidvirgil.blogspot.com/2009/03/76-minute-5-mile-long-length-paced-run.html )".

Results foot-comfort wise:

Left foot: In the 3rd mile, slight numbness/tingliness in foot; in parts of the 5th mile, slight pain in middle toe. Seems heel still loose results in urge to tighten shoelaces, which in turn results in numbness/tingliness. The big toe being elevated with extra padding may be putting pressure on the middle toe which remains at a lower elevation.

Right foot: Slight numbness-tingliness and some discomfort in ball of foot area in 3rd mile.

Tuesday March 17:

I ran the round the block course again (1st 3rd 5th miles run, 2nd 4th 6th miles walked), using for the first five miles, the style featuring an emphasis on BOTH long-length-paces AND ALSO a high number of steps per minute , taking breaks to record split-times.

Time after 5th mile: 73:02 (99:15 - 26:13 subtracted for delays = 73:02), only 18 seconds slower than my personal record regardless of style, which I achieved on March 14, while using the style that emphasizes only a high level of paces per minute (http://davidvirgil.blogspot.com/2009/03/73-minute-five-mile-run-new-personal.html ).

Of course all styles of running I use, involve an emphasis on speed. Speed combined with this, speed combined with that, speed combined with this and also that.

Pauses were due to: being stopped by police/ambulance/fire-truck because someone called them because they saw me 'wretching' on the lawn by the sidewalk prior to starting the run; stopping to record split-times; removing layers of clothing that were too warm; tying shoelaces; re-entering the apartment to get another pen because I thought I had lost the first one.

At 3:46 PM approx half way through the first mile, I was interrupted by a cop in a cop car, who was later joined by the ambulance and the fire truck, because of the report of me 'wretching' on the grass by the sidewalk. I told them the truth, which was that I was 'wretching', because I had not put enough half ' half into my coffee.

The cop sort of reminded me of what the black-haired Nick Sarkozy Prez of France would look and act like if Nick Sarkozy dyed his hair a dark brown color. Dark brown hair color is ubiquitous in these parts.

The charming and personable (short, white, clean-shaven, dark-brown-haired, boyish, hobbit-like, good-natured, smiling) young man who was an EMT-type and rode in the ambulance ordered me to fill out this form, which I somehow was required to fill out if I wanted to avoid going to the hospital with him and the ambulance driver. This interlude took 9:58 minutes:seconds of time.

I had merely been coughing up and spitting out saliva and mucus on to the grass by the sidewalk prior to beginning the run; this was I knew for sure, because I had not put enough 'half 'n half' into the coffe I drank prior to starting the run, because I had run out of 'half 'n half'.

After the first mile ended, I thought I could not find my pen which I place on the waist-high brick ledge behind the park-bench by the sidewalk where I start my runs. I looked and looked, but I swear I could not see my pen anywhere.

I went inside my apartment to get another pen and to discard the long-sleeved shirt made out of the t-shirt type material, as my clothing had gotten too warm. Then when I went outside again to resume the run, there was my pen, in the same area on the brick ledge where I thought it had disappeared from, and which I had stared at looking for the pen. This break took 10:05 minutes:seconds.

How much effort a given person must employ to achieve a given speed over a mile varies from person to person. At the level of effort I was applying during the first mile run, there naturally resulted some mental fog, caused by the running not by drugs.

This mental fog could have been a cause of: I mistakenly wrote 'September' on the EMT's form when I should have written 'March', because in my mind I was thinking of how my calculations showed that at the current rate of improvement by September I will be at world record speed (also March temperatures are like September temps); I mistakenly wrote '08', for the year 2008 when I should have written '2009', probably because I do not have to fill out too many forms and I have gotten used to writing '2008' on forms; I could not see my pen on the brick ledge, then ten minutes later I saw it on the same area of the ledge I did not at first see it in.

I was outside 'wretching', and I chose the route of 'wretching' until I could start running instead of returning to the apartment to eat/drink stuff that would soothe my stomach. I did this because I wanted to prove to myself that I could overcome 'wretching' without eating/drinking/returning-home. This turned out to be a serious error.

Me simply 'wretching' on the grass by the sidewalk led to me being interrogated by the EMT in the ambulance and forced to sign some form, just to avoid going to the hospital.

Also there were 6:10 minutes:seconds of breaks after miles 2, 3, and 4 to record split times, tie shoe-laces, and discard yet another item of clothing, this time the second of the two t-shirts I started out wearing.

The entire run, during the run and also during the walked miles, I used the long-length-paced & ALSO quick-stepped style. For the entire 5 miles, I used the following chant (chanted in my mind not with my mouth/tongue):

'Long are our strides as we streamline the sky
Many are our steps per unit of time
Lord of Roads of Magnificence am I
Lord of Roads of Painlessness am I'

This is the original chant, the first chant that I stuck with for any length of time; it emphasizes BOTH long-paces and quick paces.

Mile split times recorded:

1st, run: 14:57
2nd, walked: 13:40
3rd, run: 15:20
4th, walked: 13:50
5th, run: 15:15

The footwear during the run was:

Left shoe:

lightweight removable sole that came with shoe +
foam/gel heel-to-toe insole +
8 layers m-wrap pad under big toe +
'toe bed' (forefoot gel pad for ball of foot and toes) +
8 layers m-wrap under ball of foot +
12 layers m-wrap pad under ball-of-foot & line between toes & ball of foot +
20 layers m-wrap pad attached to toe area of gel forefoot pad beneath big, index and middle toes +
NEW TODAY 8 m-wrap layer pad behind heel at base of heel+
40 layers m-wrap pad around sides and rear of heel
Adhesives: tape, not glue.
'Pretaping' type m-wrap used.
SHOELACES: medium to tight on top shoelace, loose on other shoelaces

Right shoe:
SAME AS PREVIOUS RUN

Lightweight removable sole that came with shoe +
foam/gel heel-to-toe insole +
'toe bed' (forefoot gel pad for ball of foot and toes) +
8 layers m-wrap under ball of foot +
12-layers m-wrap pad under ball-of-foot & line between toes and ball of foot +
20 layers m-wrap pad attached to toe area of gel forefoot pad beneath big, index and middle toes +
16 layers m-wrap pad around sides and rear of heel
'Multipurpose' type m-wrap used.
SHOELACES: tight on top shoelaces, loose on others

The temp was on average 47 degrees with wind at avg 4 mph during the run (5th mile completed at 5:19 PM):
(http://www.wunderground.com/cgi-bin/wxStationGraphAll?day=17&year=2009&month=3&ID=KMAWESTO6&type=3&width=500&showsolarradiation=1&showtemp=1&showpressure=1&showwind=1&showwinddir=1&showrain=1 ).

Total sunshine again, not a cloud in the sky.

A long-sleeved collar-less sportshirt made of t-shirt type material, t-shirt, second t-shirt sleeveless t-shirt, visibility-vest, sweatpants, shorts, and headband were too warm.

After the first mile I removed the long-sleeved collarless sportshirt made of t-shirt type material. I continued to feel too warm. After the 2nd mile I removed the second of the two t-shirts.

I ran/walked the last 3 miles wearing only a t-shirt, sleeveless t-shirt, and the visibility vest on my upper body, and felt about right in the 47 degree sunshine.

Too much detail re clothes you might say, but sometimes the best solution is to start with a layer of clothing that is discarded during the run.

Advice to myself for the next run:

Left foot: increase padding to sides and rear of heel by 8 m-wrap layers again, again make sure the padding is vertically low enough to have heel-tightening effect.

Right foot: add 8 m-wrap layer pad behind heel at base of heel; or make no change.

In accordance with the rotation entered into the blog-record March 15 (http://davidvirgil.blogspot.com/2009/03/76-minute-5-mile-long-length-paced-run.html ), run using style "D Medium-length-paced, emphasis on paces-per-minute, no pauses to note split-times".

Chant to use, a NEW one:

'Many are our steps per unit of time
Great is our speed as we streamline the sky
Lord of roads of magnificence am I
Lord of roads of painlessness am I'

This chant emphasizes speed combined with a high number of steps per minute, and de-emphasizes length of stride.

Running tactics/strategy

Hard to judge how well the tactics employed today (chant, emphasis on BOTH length of paces and quickness of pace) worked due to the extra-long breaks taken half way through the first mile and at the end of the first mile.

Seems that the result today March 17 was very good in the sense of being only 16 seconds slower than my personal record regardless of running-style-applied, despite fast times March 15 and March 14. Fast times in the past have resulted in recuperation periods featuring slow times for runs during which I did NOT mentally chant in my mind.

The emphasis on length of pace COMBINED WITH quickness of pace that I applied today March 17, as of now I expect to be naturally slower than the emphasis on quickness of pace alone applied March 15 when I set the record that was 16 seconds faster than today. This because the emphasis on length of pace alone produces slower times than the emphasis on quickness of pace alone.
@2009 David Virgil Hobbs